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Sarah. 20. Sophomore at UC Santa Cruz. Art History major. Democrat. Sagittarius. Likes Ewan McGregor, Lord of the Rings, Coldplay, baseball, pirates, pina coladas, and getting caught in the rain. Dislikes the Bush Junta, Dirty Dancing, intolerance, getting up early, and public speaking. More? AIM?


Listening: The Nails - 88 Lines About 44 Women
Reading: David Sedaris - Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim
Quoting: "I don't think people die. I think they just go to department stores." - Andy Warhol

True love doesn't have to wait
May 16, 2004 @ 11:05 p.m.

((begin rant))

Stuff like this worries me.

Now, I am the last person who would ever declare Britney Spears a role model and I do think she flaunts herself as a sexual object. But what is the big deal about her having sex? Yeah, she made that chastity vow, but come on. She's young, she's beautiful, she had a serious boyfriend who (in some people's opinions) is also very good looking, whom she had known for a long time, and who she was planning on spending the rest of her life with. She obviously didn't get pregnant from it, or an STD, so really, what is the big deal? I feel sorrier for this Rebecca St. James person, who says, "Young people are wising up to the fact that it saves you a whole lot of pain when you do wait." The hell? Yeah, a lot of people have bad first times, but that can happen after you get married as well. What if you get married and you find out after sex that you're really not attracted to the person after all? And a lot of young people have completely healthy sex lives without being married. You really have to know a person completely before you make a vow to abstain like that, and so many people seem to do it without even being in a relationship. It's good to set lines for yourself, but you shouldn't feel like you can never create new lines. Otherwise, you're just fighting natural human desires. Abstinence vows just stigmitize sex and make it seem like it's this evil dirty thing, when really, it's one of the most natural things on earth. Sex in a committed, loving relationship is perfectly healthy and perfectly normal, regardless of marital state. Chastity vows just seem to put to pressure on people to marry too young, for the sake of having sex, and which, in the long run, is the worse mistake? As long as you're safe, sex is in most cases certainly better than a marriage gone wrong.

I suppose it all goes back to the idea of marriage being this holy, sacred thing, which I don't particularly think it is anymore. With the divorce rate, what, 1 in 2 now, it's more of a farce than anything else. Which is not to say that marriage is a bad idea. If two people are in love and can make that kind of commitment, go for it. A lot of people do that without even getting married. Hell, gay people can't even get married legally in most states, and their relationships are a lot more stable than heterosexual couples. But to make marriage into this mystical thing, and then to narrow it down with all these restrictions on virginity and the gender of the couple, blah, blah, blah, I just find incredibly ridiculous.

I'm not pooing on virginity. I'm a virgin for crying out loud. I would like to wait, not necessarily for marriage, but at least for the right person, regardless of when I meet them. But I do recognize the fact that I am a young person with desires and the fact that I don't have a ring on my finger is not going to stop me from exploring them. I think it's a lot less healthy to be like this Rebecca person and deny any sexual feelings you may have at all.

((end rant))

I'm tired and grumpy and I'm in one of those moods where nothing that happens can make me happy at all. Even though just being home and not at work or school is enough right now.

Goodnight kids.

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